Insensitive🖤

He used to tell me, "I want us to have a baby together," of course I did not support the idea because I was not sure about his marital status, he mentioned he was separated but I was not convinced. 

His dream came true, I conceived for him. I was scared but I trusted he would come through for me because he had desired it for so long and I had known him since my school days. the day I told him, "Innocent (not actual names) I am pregnant." With a look of disgust he said "Are you serious, why did you allow that to happen." It broke my heart especially his facial expression. I attempted abortion four times and it didn't work. Time passed by and my beautiful daughter came through very healthy. I sent him a message, he responded "I don't have any money to give you, my wife is in hospital too and we just had a baby boy" my heart broke again. Time passed by, I sent him pictures of our baby he said to me "I don't make such ugly babies, you better find her father, your best friend even told me you are a whore" if anyone hurt me with words during and after pregnancy, it was the father of my child. Ooh, now I remember our mutual friend said to me "so you were trying to trap Innocent because of his money, well I think you failed because he is never leaving his wife for you." Those I believe we're the most insensitive words said to me when I was vulnerable.

Hello good people, today am struggling with the words to express my thoughts, its deep. So up their is a confession by a friend who is close to my heart. She chooses to stay anonymous. And yes that’s how cruel people can be.

It’s the entitlement people have over our pregnancies.

I wonder if they look back at how mean they were?

What’s even more confusing in a bad way is when parents are unwelcoming of the news of pregnancy and when the baby comes, they are over the moon about them 🙄🙄

Cynthia k

Does this sound familiar?

1- You are too young to have a baby, (this is a social stereotype that eats at you.)

2- You opened your legs now you have to bear the brunch.

3- Pregnancy is going to spoil your future for you!

4- which man played you like a football match?

And lots more. Personally I had someone call my child a bastard.

I forgive you.💌 We forgive you.

The Apostle Paul says “let your conversations be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”

We must be wise on how we interact with people.The truth is good, it will set you free but there is also a good time for the truth. we can’t run around speaking the truth without wisdom, sensitivity and a sense of the Lord’s timing.

Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Proverbs 16:24(NIV)

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